I’ve invested in 20+ startups. The successful ones always have a culture of trust. Most companies secretly don’t trust each other. They have all kinds of trust issues — egos get in the way, issues fester under the surface, and teams become dysfunctional. Mine was the same until I found this simple trust-building exercise, which I’ve now repeated hundreds of times. Here’s how to dramatically improve trust within your company.
Take 15-20 minutes at the start of any informal meeting, such as leadership off-sites or team dinners/drinks. Warn everyone that you’re going to get personal, but that it’ll be fun. Then, go around the room and ask each person these four questions.
1. Where’d you grow up?
- Help them expand.
- Ask follow-up questions.
- Learn about their upbringing.
- Really listen.
2. Siblings?
- Older or younger?
- What was it like being the [oldest, youngest, only]?
- Context really helps humanize your employees.
3. Sports or hobbies?
- These are easy things to find in common.
- Get them to elaborate.
- Did they play in high school/college?
- Do they still play?
4. Biggest challenge?
- This is where things get real.
- People really open up — death in the family, tough upbringing, bullied in the past.
It’s important to listen attentively and not judge. This simple exercise has a massive impact. People drop their guard, find things in common, and better relate to each other. I’ve seen the trust built through this exercise last for years. Trust me.